Today's Highlights
- How a Snack and a Nap Can Save Your Relationships
- 1-2-3 Inner-Game
- The Pivot Playbook: Why The Best Leaders Never Stay Still
- Forget Balance, Find Your Fire
- Brain Candy
- Rundown of Cool Stuff This Week
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Hi Reader,
The other day, my wife and I got into a fight. Not a big, dramatic fight. Just one of those stupid, unnecessary fights that somehow got bigger than it needed to be.
At first, it was about something small—I don’t even remember what. But suddenly, it wasn’t just about that. It was about everything. The tone got sharper. The words got heavier. And before we knew it, we were in the middle of an argument neither of us really wanted to have.
Why? Because we were both hungry and tired. 😤🍔
That’s it. That was the real enemy. Not the silly thing we were bickering about. But in that moment, we both forgot that. Instead, we did what humans do best—we made it personal.
This happens all the time, not just in marriages, but in business, friendships, and leadership. A deal falls apart, a team member starts underperforming, a client suddenly turns difficult—and we assume the problem is the surface-level issue. But often, the real problem is underneath: exhaustion, fear, insecurity, hunger (literal or metaphorical).
⚡ The Simple Fix: Pause & Check Yourself
Next time you find yourself in an argument, pause. Ask yourself:
🔍 What’s really happening here? Is it actually about the thing you’re fighting over, or is it something deeper?
🛑 Are you HALT-ing? (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired). Because if you are, anything minor will feel like a catastrophe.
⏳ Can you zoom out? Because in five hours, five days, or five years, will this even matter?
For my wife and me, the argument ended with food and sleep. 🥗💤 The next morning, neither of us cared about what we had fought over. It wasn’t the problem in the first place. It never was.
Most fights aren’t about what they’re about. They’re about unmet needs—hunger, exhaustion, stress—hiding behind the excuse of an argument. And if you don’t catch it in time, you end up fighting the wrong battle, against the wrong enemy, with the person you love.
🎯 The Power Move:
Next time you feel yourself gearing up for war, ask yourself—do I need a snack, a nap, or a deep breath? Because more often than not, the solution isn’t to win the argument. It’s to stop fighting ghosts. 👻
Master this, and you won’t just save yourself a fight—you might just save your marriage, your business, and your peace of mind. 💡🔥
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